Being diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder when I was only 22 is not always the story I like to start with. I have been treated for the past 6 years and it has not been an easy road for me. Although medicated, I still go through episodes of manic depression and invincible highs. I have an amazing psychiatrist who helps me through my battle and counseling has also been quite beneficial for me. I am saddened when I hear of others refusing treatment or not wanting to be considered “crazy” or judged by their peers. Being honest with myself and getting treatment saved my life. Luckily, I have a family who is very understanding and there for me whenever I need them and a husband who has struggled to deal with me at times, but never leaves my side.
My blog and my online businesses have been an outlet for me. I can put my creativeness to work and leave the worrying thoughts, that like to consume me at times, to rest. I have spoken with others who suffer from depression and anxiety and they always ask how I handle the pressures of running a business, keeping up with family life and blogging, without losing my shit. The honest truth, I don’t. I lose my shit at least once a week, but nowadays I handle it differently. When I need to vent, I go to my computer and I create content. You have to direct your focus to something positive.
You have to learn what triggers these feelings. For myself, too much socialization sends me into a spiral. I consider myself social, but only to an extent. Unfortunately, I have a habit of overextending myself and it typically never ends well. I have learned when to let go and accepted the fact that I cannot please everyone. You have to understand, not everyone will like you or have the same opinion as you or be understanding of your life – LET GO. It is so important to notice when something is not working for your sanity! Do not force relationships or friendships because you feel like you have to, let go.
Nurture relationships and friendships that make you feel good about yourself. Relationships that motivate you, support you and inspire you to do better, are the only relationships that deserve your energy. Surround yourself with positive energy, manifest happiness in your own life, build an aura that you want to live in. Once something disrupts my zen, I am quick to cut it from my life.
When you run a business, you have to work with people. There is no way around it. You have to be accepting of feedback and content with knowing that your brand may not appeal to everyone, but honey – EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Continue to talk to your audience and supporters that believe in you. Find a reason to be grateful daily, I use the Finding Gratitude: Guided Journal whenever I begin to feel down. Sometimes you have to be strong enough to get yourself back on track.
Always strive to learn more, especially through reading. Some of my favorite books, that I have helped me in a personal and business perspective are The Big Leap By Gay Hendricks, Unf*ck Yourself By Gary John Bishop, and Judgement Detox By Gabrielle Bernstein. Gabrielle Bernstein has helped me through some dark times, especially with her books, May Cause Miracles and The Universe Has Your Back. I own all three and have listened or read them several times. Reading has been so beneficial to my life and dramatically changed the way I see things, my way of thinking, and my openness to view things from all angles before placing judgment.
Work smarter not harder, learn when to hire help. You cannot do it alone, especially as your business grows. You will lose your shit and potentially go on a hiatus where you prefer not to be found. Trust me, I have done it. There are so many content creators available online, so many resources are available to help you grow your business. Social media is not for everyone, hire a social media manager if it’s not your thing. They can take the stress off your shoulders and ease your mind.
I love batch posting. I take a single day and create content for the week or month depending on how much time I have. Plan out your content and save yourself the troubles of worrying later. I love brainstorming with my Happy Planner and using those ideas to create my first draft. I use the PLANN app and Planoly app to automate my posts. This is awesome, that way if you need to meditate or rest your mind throughout the week, you’re still putting out amazing content that you already prepared. Win, win!
At the end of the day, YOU GOT THIS. You don’t need me or anyone else for that matter to remind you that YOU ARE AMAZING. You work your ass off and it does not go unnoticed. You seek happiness and not approval. This is your life and you are in control of the things that happen to you. Hold yourself accountable and learn from your mistakes. Every opportunity is a chance to grow, a chance to learn, a chance to inspire someone who almost lost hope. Keep going, YOU GOT YOU, boo!